{"id":1082,"date":"2022-06-30T07:55:03","date_gmt":"2022-06-30T05:55:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/alteriade-clients.alwaysdata.net\/vivre-et-aimer\/?p=1082"},"modified":"2024-02-08T15:32:41","modified_gmt":"2024-02-08T14:32:41","slug":"comment-se-prennent-les-decisions-dans-le-couple","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alteriade-clients.alwaysdata.net\/vivre-et-aimer\/comment-se-prennent-les-decisions-dans-le-couple\/","title":{"rendered":"Comment se prennent les d\u00e9cisions dans le couple ?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Extrait d&rsquo;un article de Corinne Renou-Nativel , La Croix du 15\/06\/2022<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Lieu de vie, mariage, enfants, destination de vacances ou d\u00e9coration de la maison\u2026 Petits et grands choix tissent la vie des couples.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Qui dit d\u00e9cision de couple pense aussit\u00f4t en grand format, avec des questions des plus engageantes\u2009: Vivre ensemble\u00a0? Se marier\u00a0? Avoir un enfant\u00a0? Changer de r\u00e9gion\u00a0? Des choix essentiels mais qui n\u2019embrassent qu\u2019une petite partie du vaste champ des arbitrages sur lesquels se construit une vie de couple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Au quotidien, il faut se d\u00e9terminer sur le menu du d\u00eener, le film \u00e0 voir \u00e0 la t\u00e9l\u00e9vision, les invitations adress\u00e9es aux amis et \u00e0 la famille, le choix d\u2019une nourrice, l\u2019orientation scolaire des enfants, la couleur des rideaux, l\u2019achat d\u2019une voiture et tant d\u2019autres sujets qui ne susciteront pas tous un dialogue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Une vision romantique du couple am\u00e8ne \u00e0 penser que ne pas avoir besoin de se concerter, c\u2019est de l\u2019amour. Se figent implicitement les d\u00e9cisions et les r\u00f4les dans un contrat initial qui souvent ne dure pas parce que chacun va consid\u00e9rer que son avis pourrait \u00eatre pris en compte.\u2009\u00bb <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u2019est ce dont t\u00e9moigne Nathalie, comptable, 47 ans\u2009: \u00ab\u2009Philippe, mon mari, qui m\u2019appelait avec ironie la \u201cbanqui\u00e8re de la famille\u201d, commence \u00e0 mettre son grain de sel dans des questions comme l\u2019ouverture d\u2019un compte, qui suscitaient en lui un profond ennui il y a peu. Je m\u2019en r\u00e9jouis, non sans une pointe d\u2019agacement de le voir empi\u00e9ter sur mon pr\u00e9 carr\u00e9\u2009\u00bb, reconna\u00eet-elle.<br><br>Que l\u2019un d\u00e9cide de la d\u00e9coration, l\u2019autre de la sortie du week-end, pourquoi pas ? Mais \u00e0 condition d\u2019en parler, estime Marie Jos\u00e9 de Aguiar, Gestalt-th\u00e9rapeute\u2009: \u00ab\u2009Des automatismes s\u2019installent dans la quotidiennet\u00e9. Mais il est n\u00e9cessaire de savoir o\u00f9 en est l\u2019autre pour \u00e9ventuellement remettre en question ce qui est \u00e9tabli.\u2009\u00bb<br>Cette r\u00e9partition implicite des choix s\u2019appuie g\u00e9n\u00e9ralement sur des int\u00e9r\u00eats. \u00ab\u2009Il est possible de d\u00e9l\u00e9guer \u00e0 l\u2019autre des d\u00e9cisions, ce qui ne signifie pas se d\u00e9charger sur lui, note Bernard Prieur, th\u00e9rapeute et auteur de \u00ab\u00a0la famille, l\u2019argent, l\u2019amour : les enjeux psychologiques des questions mat\u00e9rielles\u00a0\u00bb (Albin Michel, 2016). Pour \u00e9viter ce travers, il est important de reconna\u00eetre sa comp\u00e9tence et ses propres besoins.\u2009\u00bb<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Id\u00e9alement les d\u00e9cisions se prennent \u00e0 deux dans une \u00ab\u2009coconstruction\u2009\u00bb<\/strong>.<br>D\u00e9cider a pour \u00e9tymologie des mots latins signifiant \u00ab\u2009trancher\u2009\u00bb et \u00ab\u2009couper\u2009\u00bb. \u00ab\u2009Cela implique d\u2019accepter de renoncer, indique la th\u00e9rapeute. Si ce qu\u2019on va recevoir est au moins aussi important que ce qu\u2019on perd, ce choix est juste. <strong>Dans tous les cas, le dialogue demande une estime de soi pour s\u2019affirmer dans les d\u00e9cisions.\u2009\u00bb<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p> [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1082","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-couple"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v24.7 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Comment se prennent les d\u00e9cisions dans le couple ? - Vivre et Aimer<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"noindex, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"fr_FR\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Comment se prennent les d\u00e9cisions dans le couple ? 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